Success Qualities Part 1b: Blowing Your Own Horn-How to Do it Right

Earlier in this Series

Introduction: What Do the Most Successful People Have in Common?

What the Successful People Have in Common, Part 1: Breaking Rules

In the previous article we discuss some qualities seen in some of the most successful people. The first quality we talked about in detail was their propensity to break rules set by society and conventional wisdom.  My friend BJ was used as an example regarding his self-praising attitude, in other ways, He Blows His Own Horns.

For those of us who were raised in cultures that spurn people who praise themselves, BJ may be the typical over-complacent type of guy. His enemies would be more than his friends.

What Blowing Your Own Horns is not.

The idea of blowing your own horns may sound like a call to pomposity and snobbishness, but that is not what I’m talking about here. It does not refer to the guy next door who thinks he’s knows more than anybody under the sun and is right 100% of the time. It does not apply to the person who is too conceited to ask for advice or seek help when he or she needs to.

So what is it to Blow Your Own Horn?
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What the Successful People Have in Common, Part 1: Breaking Rules

If you missed the Introduction, please read it here

Introduction: What Do the Most Successful People Have in Common?

Part1: Propensity to Break Rules

In the introduction to this series I listed the propensity to break rules as one quality possessed by most of the successful people.

There are rules in life; rules for success and rules for failure. Some rules are written down rules while others are implied. Whichever the case, society lives by these rules.

I have observed that a remarkable thing about most successful people is how they break rules with impunity; that is, how they violate of everyday principles dictated by conventional wisdom. They do something differently, regardless of the consequences. When necessary, they do not hesitate to break the rules held sacred by conventional wisdom.

I would talk briefly about my first subject BJ, a colleague I’ve known since the early 1990s. You may choose to call BJ the Self Praiser because that’s exactly who he is. He praises himself to death.

There is a rule in life that says

“Do not blow Your Own Horn”

“Do not Toot Your Own Horn”

“Let others Praise You, not Yourself”

All three are saying the same thing. In fact, you’re more likely to make more enemies if you violate these rules. This rule, when religiously obeyed, can be greatly counter productive. It might have been the case for last two centuries but the competitive world we have today challenges this mindset.

I did not like BJ and the very reason I did not like him is the reason he’s gone to places I may never go. Spend an hour with BJ and you will know every skill and talent BJ has. In fact, by the end of the hour, you’ll know enough about him to write his resume for him.

On the surface BJ is an ordinary person. I may be smarter than he (OMG!) but his self praising attitude has earned him invitation to places you can only dream of; he has been hired to do that which you can tutor him.

I realize that some people are born with this quality. Others obey the rule of ‘don’t blow your own horn’ to such an extent that they never expose who they are and what they know.

Unfortunately, the world is not made of psychics. No one is going to know who you are and what you know until you tell them.

My challenge to you is that unless you’re Oprah Winfrey and you have everybody praising you, throw this rule under the bus. Dump it!

There can be strength in humility. Know that meekness does not equate weakness.

Start today. Sell what you know. God gave that to you to make a living on it and help your society. Break the rule.

If you aren’t Oprah, no one is going to praise you until you start praising yourself. Do it until others start praising you, then you can hand it over to them.

What other rules do these folks break? To be continued.

Please check back

Next on this series

Conclusion on Breaking Rules &

Passion

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The Economic Cost of Violence

Before I delve into the cost of violence, I’ll digress slightly and talk about violence, society and socio-economic status  and the intricate relationship between them.

Violence is the use of physical force to cause injury, damage or death to others or self. It may cover a broad spectrum of activities, ranging from civil wars to murder of entire population, mob justice and civil lawlessness in societies.  I would focus on one of the little foxes, mob justice, in this article; we shall look at the elephants in the room, civil wars and genocide in another piece.

Mob justice: Mob justice (MJ) is the practice whereby mobs, usually tens of people, take the law into their hands in order to injure and kill a person accused of wrongdoing. Mob justice is not a recent fashion but an ancient practice dating back to the Roman Empire.

Due to the establishment of civil structures in societies, the issue of mob justice is becoming less common as law enforcement agencies are called upon to handle incidents of crime. However, mob justice prevails in many societies across the world and occurs both in developed and developing countries. It is not a rural craze as one may be inclined to believe. It is more prevalent in cities and recorded even on University campuses. A recent example is the incident that happened on the University of Ghana in March of this year when some students sexually molested a suspected female thief on camera.

Mob justice is a social and public health quandary in several communities in some African countries. A survey in Tanzania showed that 1249 people suspected of various crimes were killed by mobs in Dar es Salaam during the period of 2000–2004 (Afr. Health Sci. 2006 March; 6(1): 36–38). That is almost 250 people killed by mobs per year in one city. Incidents of MJ are recorded in almost every African country with sentences ranging from burning, beheading, stoning and maiming. The effects of MJ on fragile economies such as those in sub-Saharan Africa can be pronounced.

Sometimes the absence of an effective justice system that merits the confidence of the citizens may in part be responsible for the acts of mob justice. Other factors may include low confidence in police and lack of understanding of the legal process.

Does Violence Make a Society Poor or Poverty Makes a Society Violent?

In the past, if you asked me this question, I would provide you with an answer immediately without pre-meditation. However, today, the more I think about it, the more intricate the question becomes.

Societies make people and people make societies. Individual may be pre-disposed to live out what they grew up observing in the society they live in. And the society eventually becomes what the individuals live out.

Statistically more crimes are reported from poor neighborhoods than wealthier suburbs, but statistics don’t mean anything. There are questions such as whether the police patrol poor neighborhoods more frequently than rich suburbs because they expect to find more crime. And whether that what is reported as violence in a poor neighborhood is something else in the rich area. For instance, is the teenager from a poor neighborhood that intrudes his neighbor’s apartment and absconds with the cash under the pillow and the privileged teen from the upper class suburb who hacks the bank’s ATM network from his computer put in the same category?

What is the cost of violence?

Now back to what I’m here. An objective way to establish the consequences of civil violence is to compare two societies at a point in time. According to the World Bank, Burundi and Burkina Faso experienced similar rates of growth in the periods prior to 1990. Unfortunately, due to the civil unrest that grappled Burundi in 1993 onwards, now Burkina Faso is three times economically wealthier than Burundi. Even though not all acts of lawlessness reach the magnitude to be called a civil war, they nevertheless do impact economic and social development. In fact, there are figures that well correlate level of lawlessness in a society to the overall wellbeing of the population. According to the Economist, since 1990, stable countries as a set have reduced infant mortality by 31% but conflict-ridden states have reduced it by mere 19%. They also state that as of now, there is no single violent country that has achieved even one of the Millennium Development Goals (MGD).

The more violent and lawless a society is, the worse it performs in the global competition. As I mentioned elsewhere, violence is not a third or 4th word obsession, it prevails around the globe but some societies have establish robust economies and infrastructures that are able to withstand the backlash from violence. Studies show that the violence cost the US close to $70 billion a year, a fraction of which will wipe out the entire economy of Niger or Togo. It is easy to imagine the crazy images from civil wars from Liberia and Sierra Leone as that kind of violence we are discussing here. However, there are little foxes that have a way to destroy a vineyard. Incidents of burning individuals suspected of witchcraft, robbery and homosexual bullying in some communities and countries are the little foxes that require surveillance before they jump into the vineyard. There are instances of innocent bystanders killed for being mistaken to be suspects by mobs. These have a way of setting up a chain reaction that leads to more violence and lawlessness and may eventually tip a society into being ungovernable. The cost of violence may be distributed over lost productivity, medical care and destruction of infrastructure.

Is there a Solution?

Even though statistics do not tell the whole story, the relationship between socio-economic status and violence has been established through many studies. The easiest way to get people disavow violent behavior is to elevate their socio-economic status and provide them with the type of education that changes their mindset. The two must go together. I remember those days in secondary school when we thought the best way to express our frustrations at any school policy was to burn down the school electricity plant or school bus. Until a society purges itself of such a mindset, it will turn to destroy whatever is built. Similarly you are not going to build anything if you are waiting for a society to turn a monastery.

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What Would You Do with $608,000,000.00

Imagine six 350-passenger capacity jumbo jets packet with children mission every day

About 10 days ago (that is approximately 4 weeks into the Libya war), the US Pentagon released the cost of the Libya Operation; and the figure presented to the public was $608,000,000.00, and still growing.  Please note that this was the cost of the war 10 days ago. I did accounting for a mere one year so I’m not going to attempt to extrapolate the cost today but just go ahead and your own calculation if you’re comfortable with it.

What I can at least attempt to do is estimate what else this could have accomplished for humanity, especially the continent that is hosting the war.

The Figures:

  • Estimated number of malaria deaths each day: 2740
  • Percentage of malaria deaths that are children under 5 years: 70% (equivalent to 1948 children a day)
  • For a Jumbo Jet that carries an average of 350 passengers, this is equivalent to 6 Jumbo Jets full of children disappearing each day.
  • Good quality mosquito nets on the average costs $10 or less
  • Approximately one month cost of the war to remove Gaddafi could provide around 60 million mosquito nets
  • Providing a family of 3 with one mosquito net would serve the combined population of Ghana, Ivory Coast, Burkina Faso, Togo, Liberia, Cameroon, Sierra Leone, Gabon, Angola, Congo, Zambia, and DR Congo.

This is what the cost of the war as at April 14 could have accomplished for the African continent, the economist calls it the opportunity cost.

The above figures assume that every family, including the President and the First Lady, gets a mosquito net. But do Grace and Bob Mugabe really need a mosquito net to sleep in? Definitely no.

So if we decided to focus only on the most vulnerable, then we could throw in additional countries, perhaps the entire sub-Saharan Africa could be covered.

Did you watch the news conferences from the various Presidents and Prime Ministers (Cameron, Sarkozy, and Obama) making their cases for the military intervention in Libya. It appeared genocide was imminent if they did not act immediately. It was convincing from their statements that if action was not executed as soon as possible, hundreds of people would be murdered by Gaddafi within weeks. Well, since the war started, nearly 104,000 people have died of malaria, 73,000 of them children.

Humanitarian missions really do have economic face, don’t they?

(This was provided to highlight vital issues that have been neglected and not necessarily to criticize the war or suggest a resistance to the mission)
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Who are The Women and Where are They?

Photo credit-World Bank

This is not supposed to be an essay. I’m just kind of talking to myself about some things that cheese me off.

Former Clinton Secretary of State Madeleine Albright once said

“There’s a place in Hell reserved for women who don’t support other women”

I mentioned in one of my earlier articles that the problems African women face are enormous and they begin on day 1, or before. This is why we’ve devoted so much time and space to discuss issues affecting women in Africa and around the world on this website.

But since this afternoon, I’ve being asking, “Who are the women and where are they”?

I wrote about a handful of occurrences of violence against women, mostly from Ghana, and a few from other regions. One involved the brutal murder of an elderly woman, Ama Hemmaa, (who was burnt to death) by a pastor and his staff on suspicion she was a witch.

The most recent was the unutterable invasion of a suspected woman thief on the campus of the University of Ghana, Legon. I wish I had the video here for you to watch, because describing the incident over and over again makes me feel like telling an ‘adult story’. You could imagine the worst guys can do to a girl or read some of the earlier post on this issue.

There have been a few comments here from those who think Amina deserved what she did because a laptop is difficult to come by in Ghana. You have a point, friend; individuals who engage in such behaviors need to pay for it, LAWFULLY. That is the job of the campus police and that’s what we pay them to do. To strip the young woman naked, finger her (did I say that?) and put it on video is just antediluvian.

Granted that Amina deserved what she got, what about Ama Hemmaa?

This post is not meant to rehash the episodes; I just wanted to raise a few questions and ask for opinions.

It irritates me that women groups and organizations on campus, in Accra and in Ghana as a whole, have been silent on these issues. The silence is deadening. Some of us have done, and will continue to do our best. We’ve sent petitions to the authorities and hope they respond, someday.

I would welcome demonstrations and strikes from women groups and organization demanding immediate response from both the University authorities and local law enforcement. Not heard of any yet.

You cannot ask for equality and justice while you will not articulate what you want and demand it. Equality is not about husbands changing diapers while wives wash dishes. There will not be true equality and justice when issues like these are seen as commonplace.

I do not assume this is a universal problem. Women in other places may be more assertive, aggressive and pro-active in fighting for their rights. Those in Legon, Accra and Ghana have not yet demonstrated such a spirit.

I’m not advocating for violence, but we would not have a black President of America if Martin Luther King and his colleagues were just pissed off and stayed indoor to watch cartoons.

My questions are:

  • Why do women not come out strong and advocate for each other and for their own rights?
  • Why would women just sit and watch, while an elderly woman who just needs to enjoy her latter years is burnt for being a witch?
  • Is this situation unique to Ghana or pervasive across the continent (referring to women not speaking out for their own)?

Have any ideas and suggestions? Please drop them here for me.

Thank you.

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Mob Justice: If It Happens at Legon, Imagine What Goes on at Mmaa Nse Hwee

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The urban dictionary defines mob justice as “When a large angry mob takes justice into their own hands. Usually ends with somebody getting hanged, torched or pitchfork’d. A common method of dispensing justice in the more rural areas of a country”

Mob justice is a social and public health quandary in several communities in some African countries. A survey in Tanzania showed that 1249 people suspected of various crimes were killed by mobs in Dar es Salaam during the period of 2000–2004 (Afr Health Sci. 2006 March; 6(1): 36–38). That is almost 250 people killed by mobs per year in one city.

As for the above definition from Urban Dictionary, forget about it. The dictionary definition may be true for Sweden or Norway where mob justice is a rural phenomenon, but not for Ghana or Tanzania.

In Ghana, mob justice is a campus fantasy. It is adored at the citadel of education and enlightenment.

On Thursday March 31, a mob of students offered justice to a suspected female thief caught in one of the dormitories of the University of Ghana. I watched the video and some of the stuff I saw are unprintable. I apologize, but I cannot describe them here, for fear Google may flag my website for hosting adult content.

Mob justice is not a new trend in Ghana. I witnessed a suspected thief stoned to death at Techiman Market in the Brong Ahafo Region of Ghana. I was in Secondary School and had gone to market one Friday to buy some groceries and was unfortunate to encounter the mob in action.

What is new and disconcerting is the fact that such a practice is permeating academic environments and being condoned. I would not be writing about the Legon incident if it happened at Mmaa Nse Hwee, a fictional rural community somewhere not yet on the map. I would be irresponsible however to join the silence when such a despicable behavior is orchestrated in a place where people are being educated to become lawyers, doctors, presidents, and pastors.

An online petition that was launched on this website was signed by hundreds of readers home and abroad. A letter was sent to the University in which we asked the authorities to

  • Speed up investigation into the sexual violence carried out by some residents of Sarbah Hall against a suspected campus thief, Amina
  • Report on the findings to the public as soon as possible
  • Announce appropriate punishments for the responsible students.
  • Institute measures that will prevent such incidence from happening on such a respected academic environment. We believe that unless the definitional and substantive aspects of the rape law and associated set of laws which deal with sexual harassment, molestation, unnatural offences, are clearly spelt out with appropriate potential punitive measures, any response given to this incident will remain historically a hollow gesture.

It’s been over week. No response. And it’s been over two weeks since the students carried out their action. No actionable response yet from either the University authorities or the local law enforcement

Again, if this is accepted at Legon, imagine what goes on at Mmaa Nse Hwee.

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Teenage Love in Senegal and Baby Dumping in Namibia: Why Sex is not for The Ignorant

Regular visitors to TalkAfrique.com may have noticed that a disproportional amount of space is dedicated to the issues affecting women in Africa. The reasons are obvious, to say the least. The issues affecting women in Africa are enormous, and they begin the very day the doctor or mid-wife says “It’s a girl”.  Today, I discuss two disturbing statistics that are prevalent across the continent, at least, in most countries.

Senegal:

According to the UN World Health Organization, seventy percent (70%!) of teenage girls in Senegal are married. You would probably doubt this figure if the source was any other than the WHO. A report by the United Nations Children Fund early in the month showed that in Senegal, teenage pregnancies are responsible for 40% of maternal deaths in the country.

Teenage pregnancies account for up to 40% of maternal deaths in some African countries

African women are under-represented in all sectors of society except in the poverty department. Figures such as indicated above continue to be real adversaries that need to be tackled bluntly. The situation in Senegal is not an isolated incidence but rather a pervasive war of attrition that needs to be won sooner than later. In Niger, 50% of girls are married before they are 15. A couple of month ago, we posted an article here with similar disturbing facts: nearly, 5000 schoolgirls in Johannesburg, South Africa, became pregnant in just one school calendar year. It is regrettable to say that most of these girls would never become what they dreamed of becoming: teachers, pastors, parliamentarians, ambassadors, or doctors.

Namibia:

In Namibia, it’s even perhaps more shocking. Reports coming to light show that baby-dumping by teenage girls is at all-time high. Most teenage girls admit that the plausible balance between carrying an unplanned pregnancy, the stigma attached to it, the rejection by family and the society and the difficulty in obtaining or affording abortion, is to simply dump the baby. According to media reports from the state health department, about 40 bodies of newborns are found each month in human waste flushed down toilets.

I would love to hope that these incidences are unique to Senegal and Namibia but I’m afraid it rather the opposite. It is estimated that 80 women die each day in Africa from procedures they adopt to terminate unwanted pregnancies. We have a society that sweeps thorny issues under the carpet and hope they go away. Like it or hate it, teens are having sex, an exercise that is not meant for the ignorant, because the consequences could be the difference between life and death, graduation and fallout, and success and failure. When a girl is brought up in a male-dominated society where the powerful man gets whatever he desires, equipping the poor girl with ignorance is essentially sentencing them to a life of a nightmare.

It is time to close the curtain on the era when mere mention of sex in the family or school was a taboo. African teens need know more; in fact they want to know more, about sex and how to protect themselves from teenage pregnancy, HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases. Whatever we’ve been doing for the past years is not working, at least, not as we expect. The figures don’t lie.

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Booze it and risC it

A new research establishes that ‘excessive’ drinking raises the risk of some cancers.

The study which is reported in the British Medical Journal looked at 363,988 people and found that 10% all cancers in men and 3% in women were caused by alcohol consumption, either present or in the past.

The study found that men who drank more than two (standard-sized) drinks a day and women who drank more than one drink a day were particularly at risk of alcohol-related cancers.

Excessive alcohol consumption raises the risk of some cancers

When alcohol is metabolized in the body it produces a chemical which can damage DNA, and consequently increase the chance of developing some cancers.

Past research has already established a link between alcohol consumption and cancers of the esophagus, liver, bowel and female breast.

Of the cancers known to be linked to alcohol, the researchers suggest that 40% to 98% occurred in people who drank more than the recommended maximum.

The effect of smoking and healthy body weight on cancers are well known but now including scaled-down alcohol consumption would reduce the risk even further.

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