Little Things Matter, a Whole Lot

Actions, even small and insignificant ones, can remarkably influence the overall perception of an individual. When we talk about nuances, we’re talking about the clues that shed light on the greater self. They show how a person takes time; makes time; makes the effort to execute countless details.

Consider two self-employed businessmen, Adbul and Sonko, who were both vying for a grant from an angel investor from the U.S., Mr. Martin Smith. Each of them scheduled a lunch date with Martin Smith to discuss his business plan.

On the appointment day, Sonko dressed for the lunch in bleached style jeans with a polo T-shirt. After ‘brainstorming’ in the presence of Mr. Smith, they decided on which restaurant they wanted to go to. After they sat down, Sonko, right away launched and kept the conversation focused on the purpose for which they had met. He spent the entire lunch time talking about his business mission, vision and strategy with laser focus. There wasn’t any deviation to talk about anything personal.

Abdul on the other hand dressed a little above his potential client. He put on a jacket. He wanted to establish trust. He didn’t want to assume anything. Before the meeting, Abdul had called Mr. Smith’s personal secretary to inquire about Continue reading “Little Things Matter, a Whole Lot”

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What Do the Most Successful People Have in Common?

Are The Smartest The Most Successful?

Of course YES! That is what the conventional wisdom says. As kids in primary school, our teachers instilled this belief in us. Spend more time with your books, learn, learn and learn if you want to be successful in life. 

That was what I was taught and I held onto that from Primary school through University. Fortunately, today I don’t have any formal examination to write, even though I learn every day, so that gives me reasonable space and time to pause and ask:

 

“It is true that the smartest are the most successful in life?”

 

 I’m not going to explore the philosophy of what is success and what is failure because there can be as many definitions of success and failure as there are stars in the sky. Nevertheless, regardless of how I define success, I come to the same conclusion; the smartest academically are not necessarily the most successful. That kind of hurts, but that was the only honest conclusion I could arrive at. I try to look at every group of students that I was part of home and abroad and then sample a section of people I can call to mind and follow, not on twitter but in real life. These are the folks you would call successful, and of course you have the liberty to define success anyway you want.

 

 After completing this exercise, the picture that emerges is a scarily a mixed bag: few of the people who made my list were very smart by the conventional definition of the word, some were average, and some were passing throughs, that is those who felt too school was not their thing but were just passing though to make mom and dad happy, anyway.


 

While classroom performance was not the common denominator that puts these folks in one class, there are certain factors that I identified common to all of them. In the coming weeks, I would be discussing each of these qualities in detail. This is not going to be ’14 Steps to be a Millionaire in 14 Days’ kind of stuff. In fact if I knew any secret like that, I would be in Jamaica on vacation at this hour. What I hope to accomplish is to share with you powerful qualities I have learned by observing a number of people in diverse fields and perhaps to attempt to convince you that the race is not to the smartest.

 

 As a summary for today, in my assessment, the men and women I could describe as successful shared some traits which are also shared by some of the most successful people everywhere. Prominent among these traits are:

 

  1. The propensity to break rules: It’s unfortunate that this quality comes out first, but I can identify it in almost all the people that made the cut
  2. Passion: They just do something for the love of it
  3. Making connections: they just want to be noticed and known for reasons no one knows and sometimes makes no sense
  4. Curiosity: They desire to explore and ask stupid questions
  5. Risk taking: they do the things mom dreads of
  6. Persistence: they never take no for an answer
  7. Focus: they get fixed on their strengths and passions. Nothing else matters.

 

In the coming days and weeks, I will be discussing each of these success factors in detail with specific examples.  Please check back and join to share your views and experiences.

 

 Next on this series

Part 1: They Love to Break Rules

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What the Successful Have in Common: Passion

Earlier in the Series

Passion is defined as an intense emotion that compels feeling, enthusiasm, or desire for something. My own definition for the purpose of this chapter is the ‘type of feeling you feel about something that makes you feel like you’re really feeling some feeling’.

Passion is the single most important quality shared by all successful people in life or if you like, people who are making real significant impact in some areas in life. Everybody can be okay in something; we can all be average in one thing or the other, but crossing the line of just average to genius doesn’t just take everybody anyhow, it takes individuals with this intense feeling about what they set themselves to do.

My big brother won National Best Teacher Award in 2010. When my sister called to inform me, I wasn’t shocked at all because when I dug deep into his award and considered the way he handles his profession, I could see it happening several years back. His passion for teaching is intense.

With a degree in accounting and commerce, he could strive to secure a high-paying job with a financial institution but he rather chose to teach in elementary school. Surely, that is not what I would choose. To him, there’s not a single day he regrets what he does. He’s not the type of teacher who pupils sleep in class because of the level of enthusiasm with which he executes his duty. Some may envy the physical award that was given him, but I know that what he cherishes most is the pride of living as a National Best Teacher for the rest of this life. That is passion.

If you’re passionate about what you do, it should show in every aspect of your life, not life at the Continue reading “What the Successful Have in Common: Passion”

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Success Qualities Part 1b: Blowing Your Own Horn-How to Do it Right

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Introduction: What Do the Most Successful People Have in Common?

What the Successful People Have in Common, Part 1: Breaking Rules

In the previous article we discuss some qualities seen in some of the most successful people. The first quality we talked about in detail was their propensity to break rules set by society and conventional wisdom.  My friend BJ was used as an example regarding his self-praising attitude, in other ways, He Blows His Own Horns.

For those of us who were raised in cultures that spurn people who praise themselves, BJ may be the typical over-complacent type of guy. His enemies would be more than his friends.

What Blowing Your Own Horns is not.

The idea of blowing your own horns may sound like a call to pomposity and snobbishness, but that is not what I’m talking about here. It does not refer to the guy next door who thinks he’s knows more than anybody under the sun and is right 100% of the time. It does not apply to the person who is too conceited to ask for advice or seek help when he or she needs to.

So what is it to Blow Your Own Horn?
Continue reading “Success Qualities Part 1b: Blowing Your Own Horn-How to Do it Right”

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