From where I come, falling in love it tough. In fact, in most cases, you don’t even know you have fallen in love. It’s different where I live now. It is easy to love in love at the grocery checkout or gas station.
Celebrities are infamous for falling in at incredible speed, and falling out even quicker. There is a saying in my local language that translates into, “haste makes waste”. It means literally what you read.
I’ve cannot recall most of the high profile celebrities in Africa so permit me to use examples from where I live. Any way, readers from Nigeria, Ghana, Tanzania and other African countries perhaps know these people more than I do.
Rihanna and Chris Brown, Madonna and Guy Ritchie,Jon and Kate Gosselin, Jessica Simpson and Tony Romo, Tiger Woods, Bristol Plain and Levi Johnson, Antwaun Cook, Christina Milian, Fantasia, Antwaun Cook, Amber Rose and even Kanye West. What is that is common with all these folks. These are singers, actors and actresses, and athletes. The one thing that unites all of them is that they knew how to fall in and fall out of love quickly.
Well, the truth is, it is not a celebrity phenomenon. All of us do run into it. Some of us are lucky we aren’t significant enough to have our stories on the cover of the National Enquirer. When that kind of feeling is so fresh and ‘feely’, attempting to apply algebra to the situation is just nonsense. There is what feels right, and then what is right, but when you’re in that ‘feely’ mode, what feels right always wins.
So how to you know you or someone is falling in love too quickly?
Below are some red lights:
1. Everyone is telling you that you are moving way too fast.
If your close friends or family — the people who know you best — think you’re rushing into things, they just may be on to something. Listen to the people you trust the most; they have your best interest in mind.
2. You fell in love over a vacation.
You were all in your best moods, you had the trendiest attire, and just perfect in all sense. Hei, the time the two of you spent together was extraordinary. But remember that ‘that feely’ feeling is usually transient.
3. You don’t know each other’s full name.
If you’re like that friend of mine who could not pronounce at the fiancée full name during the wedding rehearsal, you’re surely running too quickly. That is probably fine if you’re looking for a room-mate, but for lifetime partner? I’m afraid you are just too fast. I’ve got to go to bed now but feel free to add some more red lights in the comment form. Others will surely benefit from your wisdom
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7) when you don’t know each others faith and what each believes. I thik this is very dangerous.
6) You know you’re rushing when you have not date for one full seasonal cycle. My uncle use to tell us that you date for one rain reason and one dry season by marriage. I think there’s wisdon in that.
5: If ur sharing a room or still living with parents, then you’e overspeeding
4) when you cell phone bills becomes a mountain because of night chats and you still don’t care