Interracial relationship: My personal experience

You posted an article about a week about African women not seeing colors in love and therefore going for interracial dating and marriage. Much as I agree with the article and the fact  the world has moved beyond race, I would like to point at that it is not that easy. It is very important that our brothers and sisters think very carefully about the challenges in interracial relationship before they get into it. I’ve have been in such a relationship before. Though let me say that we broke up not because of any racial issues but some of the usual issues in relationships. Some of the problems that I encountered over the 2 years I was in the relationships are listed below:

·        People within my community were not accepting the relationship. They always though we were just having fun and not really serious even when we had communicated every intentions that we meant it.

·        I constantly heard indirect comments that were uncomfortable; I was stared at my friends and his friends and family.

·        In fact sometimes sometime when we went to the restaurant, the restaurant staff will not just acknowledged the two of us as a party or or that we are together. Do I always have to explain to people that we’re couples? What the S&^%t..

·        I had some family and friends keeping their distance, even though my guy was warm towards everyone

I’m not trying to say that everything was that bad. I’m just trying to say that everybody must weight him or herself and ask whether he or she can swallow some of these stuff. There are benefits and personal growth if you can work it out. In my case, I had the opportunity to learn about the guys interracial culture or and I was exposed to new ways of thinking. Again just knowing that you are with this person because you love him for who he his was just an incredible.  Hei, I also picked a words and phrases from a new language.

By the way, I enjoy reading your blog.