Peek-a-Boob: The Cleavage Trend and Decency

If you’ve got it, flaunt it’… goes the popular saying. But how much of what ‘mama gave you’ should you flaunt?

These days, exposing the cleavage and most part of the boobs seems to be the ‘in thing’, unlike the past when it was regarded as a taboo. It appears as if the ladies are playing a game of who can flaunt it the most. That is why on the streets, campuses, red carpets and at other public places, when you look around, there is always a cleavage display.

Because of this fad, those who are not even naturally well ‘endowed’ do not want to be left out of the game. Thanks to plastic surgery, breast enlargement and silicon padded bras for such ones, they have been able to follow this trend.

The truth is that, even if fashion evolves day in day out, fashion icons and image consultants believe that you don’t really have to show much to look good and be in vogue, though showing a little part of the cleavage without being vulgar has been accepted into the fashion world. This comes in the form of dresses with neck cuttings that gives the outfit a fitting, sexy look or make a style come out better.

No doubt, some single ladies believe that flaunting the cleavage stylishly with a necklace and pendant dropping at the centre of their boobs attracts a man’s attention? It serves as a signal to guys if the lady is really seeking attention. Some on the other hand claim to be comfortable with it.

Well, style actually means how you can express yourself. Would it not be better to be stylish and decent at the same time? The key is, marry decency and fitting into one outfit, that is roll them together before stepping out. You can look more classy, sophisticated and truly stylish by not revealing too much!

Having a little opening is not a bad thing; it’s the trend and most women look good in it. However, it needs to fit the occasion, your personality and body type

Check out these stars (spotted a recent event in Nigeria) that have decided to give us a ‘peek-a-boob’. Who do you think is the most revealing? And which are acceptable?

Favor Uche, Nigerfilm News


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What a Constrast: Women in Mauritania Taking Dangerous Products to Help Them Gain Weight

Women Mauritania aer taking substances to help gain weight

 Nouakchott (Mauritania) – While force-feeding of young girls is waning in Mauritania, particularly in urban areas, many girls and women are voluntarily using high-tech and dangerous methods aimed at achieving the corpulent form long a status symbol in the country.

“Force-feeding by way of physical abuse is practically a thing of the past; it is generally limited to remote rural areas,” said Zeinabou Mint Taleb Moussa, head of the NGO Mauritanian Association for Mothers’ and Children’s Health (AMSME). “But young women wanting to gain weight and [resorting to extreme measures to do so] is indeed a reality.”

Mauritanians told IRIN of recent cases in which young women died from taking drugs – including products formulated for livestock – to gain weight.

While aesthetic standards are slowly shifting and some women refuse the destructive practice of forcing weight gain, traditionally in Mauritania a plump figure on a woman signifies wealth and well-being. For generations families force-fed their daughters litres of cow’s or camel’s milk daily in part to improve their marriage prospects.

A proverb of Mauritania’s Moor ethnic group says: “The woman occupies in her man’s heart the space she occupies in his bed.”

But in recent years, despite health warnings, some girls and women are voluntarily turning to other methods, like taking cortisone products – including one designed to make cattle gain weight; appetite-inducing syrups; and psychotropic medicines.

“Some months ago, my cousin went to the village to prepare for marriage,” said an AMSME member who requested anonymity. “This preparation includes fattening up, and she died from an overdose of drugs designed to make one gain weight.”

In another case, a young girl in a slum in the capital Nouakchott recently died after taking drugs designed for cattle, said Souleimane Cherif, president of the Mauritania pharmacists’ association.

Social researcher Mohameden Ould Ekahe said one of the animal drugs women take “to self-fatten” is locally known as ‘dregdreg’ – a Hassaniyya word meaning a shaking of the heart, for one of the health hazards it can pose. “They want to meet the standard of a society in love with fat women,” he said.

The products are easy to obtain and that is part of the problem, pharmacist Cherif told IRIN.

“Regulations are not strictly applied mostly because of the profits for some in the medical sector,” he said. “Furthermore the state’s resources are relatively limited. Still the authorities have made efforts in the past three years, including removing certain products from the markets.”

Despite these efforts and a 2010 law stipulating harsher penalties for irregular drug sales, anyone can buy the products in markets and pharmacies. It is difficult to say how much money is spent on such products for these purposes, as much of the trade is on the black market.

Many women also request birth control pills just for the potential weight-gain, and appetite-inducing syrups, said Anna Fall, a midwife at a health centre in a lower-class neighbourhood of Nouakchott.

The push to pack on extra weight carries the threat of cardiovascular disease, kidney failure, diabetes and high blood pressure, said Mohammed Lemine Ould Cheikh, the health centre’s head doctor. “Most women don’t know that these medicines are dangerous; otherwise they wouldn’t take them. It’s a question of literacy.”

Taleb Moussa said it is not all down to ignorance; some girls trying to put on weight dismiss the dangers of misusing drugs. “I was in a pharmacy one day and I saw some girls buying these products. I told them it’s dangerous; they laughed and went about their business.”

Indeed, social pressure and long-held standards persist.

Marième Diallo, 53, was force-fed as an adolescent. Her two daughters, 14 and 19, are slim and refuse to gain weight; Diallo said she will not force them, and for that she is derided by friends. “Recently my neighbour came round, telling me it’s not normal, it’s dishonourable for my family that my daughters are thin. She wanted to take them to the village to make them gain weight.”

Many men still see size as a measure of beauty. “For some men it is still humiliating to have a skinny wife,” AMSME coordinator Khadija Sakho told IRIN. “They are ashamed to have their friends come round.”

(Source: UN Integrated Regional Information Networks (IRIN)
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And the winner is “you have beautiful lips”

A new survey just released shows that praising a woman on her lips is the best way to enter her heart. I hope the single African guys who need a little help in the romance department might add this to their pick up lines.

The site (badoo) which conducted the survey has 87 million registered users. The survey analyzed the success rates of opening lines from nearly 200,000 online flirtations in 11 languages.

The sites members were asked to use one of 12 different ice-breakers, each complimenting a woman on a characteristic of her body or appearance. Success was determined by 1) prompting any response and 2) launching a conversation.

And the winner is … “You have beautiful lips.”

Even though the beautiful lips compliment was successful across all countries, some compliments did better in some countries than others. For instance, for

  • American, Australian and Brazilian women: Tell her how beautifully she dresses.
  • Spaniards: Compliment her hair.
  • Germans and Canadians: Tell her her skin is perfect
  • If she’s Dutch or Portuguese, concentrate on the ears. According to the survey, they liked: “You have beautiful ears.”
  • Sweden – – – “You have a beautiful figure”
  • Poland: It’s all about the arms.  Just say “You have beautiful arms”

African women were not represented in the survey. In any case, if you’re not sure what the woman will appreciate most, just stick to the lips; it works for all of them. It will surely work for the African woman.

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Interracial relationship: My personal experience

By Belinda Walker.

Hello,

You posted an article about a week about African women not seeing colors in love and therefore going for interracial dating and marriage. Much as I agree with the article and the fact  the world has moved beyond race, I would like to point at that it is not that easy. It is very important that our brothers and sisters think very carefully about the challenges in interracial relationship before they get into it. I’ve have been in such a relationship before. Though let me say that we broke up not because of any racial issues but some of the usual issues in relationships. Some of the problems that I encountered over the 2 years I was in the relationships are listed below:

·        People within my community were not accepting the relationship. They always though we were just having fun and not really serious even when we had communicated every intentions that we meant it.

·        I constantly heard indirect comments that were uncomfortable; I was stared at my friends and his friends and family.

·        In fact sometimes sometime when we went to the restaurant, the restaurant staff will not just acknowledged the two of us as a party or or that we are together. Do I always have to explain to people that we’re couples? What the S&^%t..

·        I had some family and friends keeping their distance, even though my guy was warm towards everyone

I’m not trying to say that everything was that bad. I’m just trying to say that everybody must weight him or herself and ask whether he or she can swallow some of these stuff. There are benefits and personal growth if you can work it out. In my case, I had the opportunity to learn about the guys interracial culture or and I was exposed to new ways of thinking. Again just knowing that you are with this person because you love him for who he his was just an incredible.  Hei, I also picked a words and phrases from a new language.

By the way, I enjoy reading your blog.

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Today’s black women don’t see love in colors

For many black women in America, finding love has become a serious issue.

Census data show that roughly 40 percent of black adult women in the U.S. have never been married. That’s nearly twice the percentage of white women.

Fleace Weaver, an L.A. socialite and the organizer of "Free Your Mind: The Black Girls Guide to Interracial Dating.One entrepreneur in Los Angeles is fighting the odds. Her mission: move black women from no man’s land to a diverse dating world.

Black Girl’s Guide To Interracial Dating

Fleace Weaver, an L.A. socialite and the organizer of "Free Your Mind: The Black Girls Guide to Interracial Dating.

More than 100 black women pack a small Italian restaurant near West Los Angeles. It’s standing-room only. They’re not there for the food; they’re there for a seminar called "Free Your Mind: The Black Girl’s Guide to Interracial Dating."

There’s no reason for us to believe we have to be alone. The only thing that’s keeping us from finding someone is that we limit ourselves.

 

Fleace Weaver, an L.A. socialite and the organizer of the night’s event, got the idea after noticing that many of her black friends had it all — a career, house, independence — but no man.

Weaver is black. She dates men of all colors — black, white, brown — and wants more black women to do the same. "I am an international lover. All right; I am an equal opportunity lover," Weaver says. "That means I love who is good to me. I don’t want anybody just because they’re a certain color."

Some black professional women say it’s harder to find a black man at their same education and income level. You can see the trend on college campuses. According to the Department of Education, in the fall of 2007, 64 percent of black students enrolled in college were women.

But Weaver argues that Mr. Right doesn’t have to be Mr. Black. "There’s no reason for us to believe we have to be alone. The only thing that’s keeping us from finding someone is that we limit ourselves," Weaver says.

Crossing Racial Lines For Love

Interracial dating is a sensitive issue in the black community. Blacks have a brutal history with race relations; some blacks see dating outside the race as betraying the culture.

Still, more black men are thinking outside the box. According to research from Stanford University, black men are nearly three times more likely than black women to marry interracially.

If black women are set on "black love only," Weaver says they may be passing up good men. "Some of you all out here have gotten some signals, and you all missed them. Or you got signals, and you all blew him off because he wasn’t chocolate," Weaver says. "But we’ve got to get over that — unless you want to be home with chocolate cats."

Let’s Talk Men

A dozen nonblack men — all of whom date or are married to black women — speak on a panel. They answer questions about crossing the color line. For instance: How do you know if a nonblack guy likes black women?

"If a white guy, Asian guy or Mexican guy — whatever race, irrelevant — likes you and he has skills, then he’s going to ask you out, just like a black man would. If you’re in a social setting and a man comes up to you, he’s interested. That’s it," says panelist Francisco Dao.

The panel also touches on that other sensitive topic for black women: hair. Are other men OK with the various textures and styles of black women’s hair? The entire panel agrees: short, long, straight or kinky, it doesn’t matter.

Christopher Rawley is white and is married to a black woman. After his wife burned herself with a curling iron, he told her: "Don’t do this because of what you think I want you to be like. Be you. And you’re beautiful natural. You’re beautiful however you want to feel," Rawley says.

Weaver also invited a few black men to speak to show that they support this cause — that the program is not to bash them. The group includes Ryeal Simms, a relationship coach who encourages his black female clients to expand their options — but to do it for the right reasons. "Because if you’re going in it thinking that if he’s not African-American, he’s going to treat me better, and I’m going to be really happy regardless, we’re all still men," Simms says.

Regardless of whom the women choose to date, Weaver hopes they leave the seminar with at least one thought.

"Dating is just dating. Men are just men. You know, it’s all the same at the end of the day," Weaver says.

(Source, NPR)

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I feel pretty today

Naa Adjeley Addo
  Naa Adzeley is from Newark, NJ and lives in Forth Worth, TX. She enjoys cooking and writing and defines shopping as her cardio.
 
  Composed and submitted by Naa Adzeley in response to the post 'The Black woman new look'

 
I feel pretty today
Looking in the mirror at my less than perfect reflection
 thinking, “Man, I need a tan”
I start to laugh
My gap tooth reflection smiles back at me
I look and feel great
 
I feel pretty
Cosmo, Vogue etc. may not agree
But who cares… I think I’m cute
My lips and hips may be thicker than they’d recommend
And… yes I do need to exercise more
And I could stand to lose more than a few pounds
But…I still look good
 
I feel pretty
My nails are done, minus the acrylic
My hair is fly and chemical free
Pretty pink toe nails in my traditional black ahenema
You can’t tell me that I’m not the shit
Throw on my shades as I walk out the door
Haute!!!
 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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